Posted by: granny1947 | May 19, 2017

Granny and old age homes.

Hello All.

Yes, let’s talk about the old age home Mom is in.
I think it is pretty good.
The matron even phoned the hospital to find out how Mom was doing.
Which shows a level of compassion.

Mom is in a room with four other ladies.
In the bed next to her is a lady about the same age as mother.
Very emotional.
Gets all teary when you give her a treat.
Thanks you over and over.
She is a Jehovah Witness and, one visit, read me a very long poem about dying.
Her stepson and his wife moved into her house to look after her.
Then said she was tying them down.
And put her in the home.
I am being EXTREMELY nice to my kids now.

On the other side of Mom is an elderly lady who has completely lost the plot.
She grunts a lot.
It drives Mom crazy.
However, if you give her a treat her mouth opens immediately.
So, I guess there is some comprehension there.

Next to her is an elderly African woman.
She sleeps a lot.
When she doesn’t sleep she tries to escape.
The nurses are constantly bringing her back to the ward.
She also has a disconcerting habit of standing at the end of your bed and staring at you.
I feel very sorry for her.
In the old days the grandmother in the family was venerated.
She just wants to be at home.
Sadly, times appear to have changed.

Finally, in the other corner is a sweet old duck.
She plays with a toy dog.
Feeds it imaginary food from her pill bottle.
And talks to it.
I like her.
I always make a point of waving to her.
It takes a while for the penny to drop but then you get the most amazing smile.
I gave her a treat the other day and she said ” I could pray for you, but you don’t need it”
Well, she said it in Afrikaans so I THINK that is what she said!



  1. a good variety but wish your mom was not there

  2. Would like to grow old(er) as a “sweet old duck”!

    • Can’t picture myself as a sweet old duck…a caustic old dragon maybe!

  3. Sad indeed when the plot starts being lost.
    I wonder how it is that some people manage to stave off those effects. One blogger’s MIL, at over 100, still lived alone in her double-storey cottage and tended house and garden.

    • You must be talking about Sylvia’s MIL, Col ~> She is AMAZING!

    • 94 year old Dad is amazing. Can quote long poems. Also starting to repeat himself a bit now. God help me if he goes the same way.

      • Read an article saying too much sugar can bring on Alzheimers.

      • That is remarkable. And I thought the men were inclined to go ga-ga sooner.

  4. So . . . you must bring LOTS and LOTS of sweets and treats when you visit since you seem to have an appreciative audience for them!

    • I try not to bring too much sweet stuff as it is not good for them. On second thoughts…what the hell if it perks them up.

  5. It’s so difficult to see our elderly family members suffering with various forms of illnesses, whether mental or physical. And it’s so hard to see others suffering too when we visit them in care homes. I agree that it’s sad when some younger family members sometimes don’t want to take on the responsibilities of caring for a parent who doesn’t need to be in a eldercare facility. There are some wonderful in-home visiting nurses here in the States, some of whom will live with the elderly person in need of care, others who come in to feed, wash, clothe and transport them during the day – but it’s VERY expensive. ::sigh:: As the saying goes, “Growing old isn’t for the faint of heart.”

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