Hello All.
Just a short post to explain why I haven’t been blogging.
I find it very hard to blog when I am unhappy.
And I am very unhappy.
Wendy is in hospital in Pretoria.
I don’t know if she will make it back home.
She is very weak.
And in a great deal of pain.
They have given her a month.
At the most.
I can handle the fact that she is leaving.
Well, sort of.
But the fact that she is suffering is driving me to distraction.
I find myself thinking of her all day long.
And I feel so bloody helpless.
Why, why, why does this have to happen to someone so special?
So my friends….please forgive me for not being around.
I really need your positive vibes right now.
Can’t like because of the message, but can say power to you to ride the wave because “que sera, sera”. Nothing we can do about it. We can however face the inevitable bravely by recalling the happy memories. May the force be with you and strengthen you in this trying time.
By: newsferret on July 12, 2012
at 8:58 pm
Thank you so much Newsey.
By: granny1947 on July 13, 2012
at 8:55 pm
This happened to us when our daughter died after years of illness, although she was not in pain.
We spent years in hospital with her, and thats really all you can do, be there for them, right up to the final moment.
Just be brave and strong, take care.
By: Harry on July 12, 2012
at 8:58 pm
Oh Dear Harry…I didn’t know you had lost a child…how sad.
By: granny1947 on July 13, 2012
at 8:55 pm
Yes granny, we all have secrets on the web
She died at the age of 22 with Cystic fibrosis, a killer.
By: Harry on July 13, 2012
at 8:58 pm
Oh God Harry….you have just put my pain into perspective…it can be nothing like what you went through.
By: granny1947 on July 13, 2012
at 9:01 pm
Sending you all the good vibes and hugs I have. Sympathy to you and Wendy. She doesn’t deserve all of this.
By: SidevieW on July 12, 2012
at 9:08 pm
No Sidey…she really doesn’t.
By: granny1947 on July 13, 2012
at 8:54 pm
So sorry to hear that, although from what has gone before it was, I suppose, inevitable. Nevertheless, very hard to take. Intellect tells you that you should have been prepared for it; emotion overrules.
By: colonialist on July 12, 2012
at 9:33 pm
Hi Col…yes…if one could only take the emotion out of the equation.
By: granny1947 on July 13, 2012
at 8:53 pm
It’s sad to know someone you love is in such great pain. In our family we burn a candle for someone who is ill and will be our thoughts all day.
Just hope her passing will be easy and gentle.
Lots of hugs and xxxxx.
By: Pussycat44 on July 12, 2012
at 9:38 pm
A candle is a great idea Pussycat…that is what I shall do tomorrow.
By: granny1947 on July 13, 2012
at 8:53 pm
Oh my dear friend, once again I can’t say how sorry I am that this awful thing is happening to you, Wendy, and her partner. I completely understand how you feel and wish I could unburden you somehow. My prayers are with you all. These things are never fair. Know that I’m always here for you – at a distance, but *here* nonetheless. Many blessings to all of you.
By: raisingdaisy on July 12, 2012
at 9:40 pm
Thank you so much TD…that means the world to me.
By: granny1947 on July 13, 2012
at 8:52 pm
I’m so sad for you, granny. It must be awful to be so far away when you feel she needs you. Sending you lots of positive thoughts and hugs.
By: adinparadise on July 12, 2012
at 10:01 pm
Thanks AD…I asked if I should fly up tomorrow but M. said she won’t even know I am there.
By: granny1947 on July 13, 2012
at 8:52 pm
I am so very sorry.
By: Sous Chef on July 12, 2012
at 10:04 pm
Thanks Sue…I know you have been here.
By: granny1947 on July 13, 2012
at 8:51 pm
Sending good vibes your way.
By: Elaine on July 12, 2012
at 11:15 pm
Thanks Elaine…so good of you.
By: granny1947 on July 13, 2012
at 8:51 pm
some of my best work comes from my worst places-its a release, a way to “scream, vent”…you will get it done when it feels right-you are an inspired writer…beebeesworld
By: beebeesworld on July 13, 2012
at 12:45 am
Hi Beebee….that is about all of a vent I am going to do…I think…watch this space.
By: granny1947 on July 13, 2012
at 8:50 pm
So sorry … sending you many good thoughts … Love, cat
By: cat on July 13, 2012
at 1:15 am
Thank you Cat…lots of love to you too.
By: granny1947 on July 13, 2012
at 8:50 pm
Sending good vibes across the ocean – I hope they reach you and help you through this sad time.
By: grandmalin on July 13, 2012
at 3:45 am
Thanks Lin…you have no idea how much that helps.
By: granny1947 on July 13, 2012
at 8:49 pm
I hope Wendy will have peace and rest for the rest of her days. Much love to you and her. Hugs.
By: Booksphotographsandartwork on July 13, 2012
at 4:06 am
Thanks Linda…from what I hear it is not happening…makes me so mad…why can’t they just make her sleep?
By: granny1947 on July 13, 2012
at 8:49 pm
Granny, if it’s any comfort, the medical profession today is geared towards making certain the person is as pain free as possible. The goal is to help them be comfortable when there’s nothing more that can be done towards stopping the disease.
What you have already done for Wendy is remarkable, Granny. She would have no doubt about your love. Your steady calm is a great gift – whether from a distance or by her side.
By: souldipper on July 13, 2012
at 5:54 am
Thanks Amy…I spoke to her partner just now…she is in terrible pain…I just don’t understand it…want to fly up and scream at the doctors.
By: granny1947 on July 13, 2012
at 8:48 pm
What…??? I don’t blame you for being furious. Can the hubs ask them to just make her comfortable?
By: souldipper on July 13, 2012
at 10:22 pm
I can’t believe it either Souldipper…I thought that nowadays they could control the pain.
By: granny1947 on July 14, 2012
at 3:24 pm
In Hospice training, we were told by the Doctor who heads Palliative Care, “There is no need for any to be in pain during the last stages of life.”
Are they concerned that she’ll live a few days less?
By: souldipper on July 14, 2012
at 7:15 pm
That is exactlt what I thought Souldipper…they have great drugs.
I will know more on Monday.
By: granny1947 on July 14, 2012
at 7:27 pm
hang in there Granny
By: Ruth2Day on July 13, 2012
at 9:18 am
Hanging in Ruth, hanging in.
By: granny1947 on July 13, 2012
at 8:47 pm
Love you lots and thinking of you and Wendy.
Monica
By: napier on July 13, 2012
at 9:51 am
Thank you so much my friend…I miss you and love you too.
By: granny1947 on July 13, 2012
at 8:47 pm
So sad for you and Wendy Granny, I pray the suffering will not last too long. Lots of ((Hugs))
By: optie on July 13, 2012
at 10:05 am
Me too Optie…now I am praying for her to slip away.
By: granny1947 on July 13, 2012
at 8:46 pm
Sad place to be. Remember that there are lots of more important things than blogs.
By: Roly on July 13, 2012
at 12:28 pm
Yes I know Roly…blogging has been low on my list.
By: granny1947 on July 13, 2012
at 8:46 pm
Stay strong and keep well
By: Roly on July 14, 2012
at 8:31 am
Thanks Roly.
By: granny1947 on July 14, 2012
at 3:22 pm
Kathy, I am so very sorry that Wendy is so sick and not doing well. I pray for her every morning. I have no answers for you. It doesn’t seem fair or right that good people should suffer so. Just know that you are in my prayers too because i know that you are suffering too.
By: mairedubhtx on July 13, 2012
at 2:23 pm
Thank you Maire…I can feel the strength coming in waves.
By: granny1947 on July 13, 2012
at 8:45 pm
There are no words to convey my feelings, The Big C takes even those close to us, it is not picky in the slightest…just know that I am praying for you and for Wendy..Have no fear the Lord will take great care of her when the time comes.
my love
By: misswhiplash on July 13, 2012
at 5:24 pm
Thanks so much Patrecia…it means a lot.
By: granny1947 on July 13, 2012
at 8:45 pm
Dear Granny, so sad for you and Wendy.
By: Tilly Bud - The Laughing Housewife on July 13, 2012
at 8:44 pm
Thanks Love.
By: granny1947 on July 13, 2012
at 9:02 pm
Thought of love and support from this side of the world for Wendy and for you. What else is there to say?
By: judithhb on July 13, 2012
at 11:08 pm
Nothing Judith but thank you for caring.
By: granny1947 on July 14, 2012
at 3:23 pm
So sorry to hear this granny, it must be hell for you and the family to see it happening to someone who is loved so much. I hope Wendy’s suffering doesn’t drag on and that she slips away peacefully.
Many prayers are being said for you and the family, and mine is right in there too. My heart goes out to you from across the miles.
By: barb19 on July 14, 2012
at 3:30 am
Thank you Barb…it means a great deal to me.
By: granny1947 on July 14, 2012
at 3:22 pm
You’re in our thoughts, sending you hugs and prayers.
By: Grandma Nancy on July 16, 2012
at 5:24 am
Thanks so much Nancy.
By: granny1947 on July 16, 2012
at 11:19 pm
So sorry to hear this. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
By: yearstricken on July 18, 2012
at 2:05 am
Thanks so much Yearstricken.
By: granny1947 on July 18, 2012
at 8:05 pm